LOVE HIM

OR LEAVE HIM?

A woman's guide to gratefully

loving, or graciously leaving

her man ™

 

 

 

Are you wondering where your man went - that wonderful man who swept you off your feet?
 
Is it painful to remember a time when you felt deeply in love? Does it hurt to recognize the romance, connection and affection that you once had is becoming a distant memory?
 
Do you feel unheard, unappreciated, exhausted or confused?
 
Are you feeling discouraged, fed-up or just plain irritated by everything he does?
 
Are your arguments becoming more commonplace or more hostile?
 
Seriously, have you ever contemplated the question “Do I stay or do I go?”
 
If so you are not alone. For a start you’re like the thousands of women I’ve worked with in the last 20+ years.

 

 

 

Hello, I’m Nikki Green, I'm a psychotherapist, sexual/marital therapist and an affairs expert with nearly 25 years of experience working with couples, and I have some very good news for you:

It really is possible to turn that relationship that feels like a pile of burnt-out embers into the brightly burning phoenix of your soul-mate relationship. One in which you feel alive, appreciated, cherished and safe.   

Sure, I can certainly show you how to do it, but the best news is; I can show you how to do it by yourself! Yes you read that correctly - you don’t need your partner to come into therapy, take a course or even read a book, (although after we’ve worked together he’ll probably be a lot more amenable to it).
 
I’m not going to ask you to do anything that isn’t backed by research, hasn’t worked for countless other women I’ve worked with, and that I haven’t benefitted from first-hand in creating my own soul-mate relationship.
 
Research shows that at least 80% of women have some level of dissatisfaction in their relationships. It’s hardly surprising as we’re in the unprecedented situation in which the Love-Relationship Blueprint passed onto us is totally obsolete; it’s failing us miserably.
 
Most of us saw it fail to serve our mothers and grandmothers who tried to use it to negotiate the imbalance of power both at home and at work. They endeavored to lead the way for generations of career women, yet also act as role models for how to have a fulfilling love relationship. It really was a case of the blind leading the blind. For the first time in history an economic power shift allowed women to pair-up for love rather than through necessity, BUT WE NEVER RECEIVED THE TRAINING TO MAKE THIS WORK.
 
My generation’s use of that deficient model (inevitably passed down to us by our mothers), has led to an alarming divorce rate of 50%+ and a predilection for infidelity that has understandably destroyed both our own faith, but also sadly the faith of our children. Have they in turn become, for the most part, a generation of commitment-phoebes, determined not to make the same mess out of their relationships that we did, by either not having one or having several at the same time? Is polyamory (which is becoming more popular among the younger generation) their hopeful yet misguided solution to the seemingly impossible task of making a relationship work?
 
I don’t want to put any pressure on you ladies but I’m not exaggerating when I say the future happiness of humanity depends on us completely redefining and redesigning the modern Love-Relationship Blueprint, so that we can be informed enough to be happy ourselves, and advise our children well.
 
The good news is we are in a great position to do just that. Today we are so fortunate to be able to call on decades worth of insightful research – not only the vital research into the secrets of happy, long-term couples, but also from other fields like human sexuality, success, motivation, satisfaction, learning and neuroscience; all of which I’ve drawn on in both my work with couples and the creation of this course.
 
I totally understand how you may believe the main problem in your relationship is caused by your partner’s unsupportive ambivalence, his inability to listen or understand you, or his unwillingness to change – there was a time when I completely believed that too - I’ve certainly witnessed enough of that behavior in my work and in my own past relationships. However, backed by volumes of research, seeing it in action countless times with clients, and having put it into action myself, the empowering truth is; AS A WOMAN YOU HAVE THE POWER TO SINGLE-HANDEDLY CHANGE THE DYNAMIC OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
 
Yes you heard me right; I said single-handedly! A relationship is a dynamic system, with both partners constantly reacting to the other; change the way one relates and you’ll totally change the system.
 
You may at this point either be skeptical, especially if you’ve tried working on your relationship and he either wouldn’t or couldn’t do the work or even see it was necessary. Or you may be thinking “well why the heck is it all up to me?”

 

Instead I invite you recognize that men and women are wired differently and that women have the innate capacity to be the one who completely sets the tone of the relationship. All you need to do is unlearn the lessons (or break the bad habits), from the unsuccessful relationship model that most of us were taught, and to replace it with one that allows us to be much truer to the essence of what it really means to be a woman – to reconnect with the intrinsically loving, nurturing and wise 'Divine Feminine', present in us all. In doing so we awaken the Hero Instinct in our partners – that which is innate in all good men. This course is my invitation to join me in this Modern Love Crusade!

“We just need to learn, and begin to use, the tools that will enable us to do this. We can finally have the deeply loving and fulfilling relationship we've always dreamt about - many of us with our current partner!”

You’ll know whether you need these tools if you ever:

  • Lay awake at night worrying about your relationship and your future.
  • Feel like you’ve been clear about your needs but they’re just getting ignored.
  • Ache for more romance and passion but feel hopeless about how to get it.
  • Feel empty and exhausted due to your over-functioning and over-giving.
  • Worry that you care more about the relationship than he does.
  • Wish he would help more around the house.
  • End up in the same fights over and over.
  • Wonder how you both became so critical.
  • Question where your (or his or both of your) sex drive went.
  • Don’t feel supported in your personal goals.
  • Wonder how you’ve turned into such a nag.
  • Question if you are really meant to be together after all…
If you answered yes to any of these questions this course is for you.

But why is now the right time to be focusing on your relationship? Because 30 years of analysis by John Gottman, the world’s leading relationship researcher, shows that while it may have taken a long time for your relationship to get here, once it starts to self-destruct it becomes a downward spiral and it speeds up towards the inevitable end, so you need to act quickly if you want to save it.

This ‘Love Him or Leave Him Foundation Program’™ is the fruition of nearly 25 years of successful work with couples, and as excited as I am about it, I want to make sure I’m offering women everywhere my best work going forward.

As I've just recently started teaching it, I want to keep the numbers small so I can get more personal feedback and insights from you. Signing up now puts you in a fantastic position to capitalize on this, which is not going to be around for long.

If you sign up today at this early stage, as a reward for being a decisive early adopter, not only will you get a guaranteed space, several of which have already been booked at the time of this update, but you’ll also receive a 50% discount on a price that will never be this low again.

Plus you’ll receive much more attention, attention you‘ll never get at this level of training again. Attention you will have to join my Coaching or Mastermind levels to receive in the future.

That’s not all. You’ll also get access to all Foundation Course updates/upgrades.
The next course starts Wed March 25th at 8PM HK time, 12 Noon UK time and 8AM US EST.

It includes 7 consecutive weekly live training sessions, with homework in between.

Each week consists of 60-90 minutes of mixed-media, web-based live training, including Q&A, where you can bring your questions for clarification or coaching (or send them in advance if you can’t make the live sessions).


Participants of my prior live group coaching have told me that listening to others receiving coaching is just as powerful as having their own questions answered, and often reveals questions they didn’t even know they had.

 

If this is something that speaks to you, I highly recommend you take advantage of the crazy low price and lock in your place today. As this is the first launch of this course, I’m charging 30% of the normal price. Right now I want to give you loads of value in the hope of getting some good feedback. Also, because I’m keeping the numbers low, you’ll get a LOT of attention. I 100% guarantee this offer won’t be repeated.

Yes please, I’m serious about improving my relationship now, I want to lock in my place:

Sign Me Up

I’m willing to risk not getting a place on this course, or for getting it at this low price, but want to be put on the reminder list for the ’Love Him or Leave Him Launchpad’ in future:

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Course Breakdown

So I’ve realized that there are 4 areas that you need to focus on to get really clear about, and to concentrate your effort around in order to become a really skilled and inspiring partner.

For simplicity’s sake I’m just using a heterosexual model here, but the same solutions apply for all predominantly feminine energy partners.
 
First you’ve got to learn how to EMPOWER yourself before you can help the relationship; when I say empower I mean to give yourself power, to act from that strong, powerful part of you.
 
As you become more empowered, the next area you need to focus on in order to create your lasting love relationship is how to ENLIGHTEN yourself about how men really work.

To create a love that lasts you also need to learn how to ENGAGE him. How to talk to him so you can stay connected and problem solve productively.

So it’s only after you’ve learned to do these first three steps that you can then ESTABLISH whether or not you’re with the right man.

Female Freedom Formula ™

In the Academy of Lasting Love, the module I teach to help my students EMPOWER themselves, is the Female Freedom Formula - because I want you (and I know you probably do too), to come to all your relationships from a really powerful, centered and self-loving place.

A self-aware place where you understand your past conditioning and how it triggers you, and have better control over those emotions that until now have just seemed to control you. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to control your emotions?

Anais Nin said, “we don't see things as they are; we see them as we are,” so the steps in this module will really help you to improve the way you show up in life, the way you feel think and behave, which will directly impact your happiness and success.

The Female Freedom Formula also teaches you how to navigate your confusing and conflicting masculine and feminine energies, so that you’re not only a happy well-balanced woman, but also a wife and mother you’re proud to be, as well as a success at work and a siren in your bedroom, which really is super-important for an intimate relationship to thrive.

The Magical Man Decoder ™

After you’ve learned to Empower yourself you need to become ENLIGHTENED so you can empower your man, so that he can make you happy. Which is actually what most good men really want to do before we inadvertently get in the way.

For that I’ve devised The Magical Man Decoder™, in which my students will learn about cutting edge neuroscience into the differences in how the male and female brain works. They’ll also get the insight that I’ve gained from having a front row seat to this, through my work with so many men both individually and in their couple.

Obviously not all men are the same but there are some very interesting things they have in common that make them think differently to women. And when you’ve completed this module you’ll understand what makes a typical man tick, how they tick differently to us and how to use this knowledge to not only improve your relationship with your man, but men in general.

Also we’ll help you figure out how each of you feels loved so you’ll be able to zone in and easily make him feel loved in a way that resonates so deeply with him that it becomes a priority for him to learn to do the same for you, so that you’ll stick around.

Plus, you’ll learn the secret to the most effective ways to teach him how to do that, so he can happily and consistently love you in the way you’ve always dreamt of being loved. Would that be a valuable skill to have? 

Radical Relationship Renewer ™

And now to be able to ENGAGE your man, like never before, I’ve created The Radical Relationship Renewer.  Once you’ve learned how to effectively engage, your whole life changes, these are some of the most important tools you could ever learn, and when you practice this new way of showing up, of interacting, you will start to get very different results, not just from your man but from everyone you engage with.

The Radical Relationship Renewer has 7 key strategies, 7 key steps that I take you through so that you understand every element that can help you help him become the loving partner that you need him to be.

Once you’ve mastered this module it’s both powerful and exciting how you’ll be able to engage with him in a way that not only do you understand him but he also understands you so that you both gladly give each other what you each need.  

Plus you’ll be able to work through the problems that life deals you in a way that not only heals your past wounds, but also creates more connection and deepens your bond. Would it be helpful to know how to do that?

And think of how those skills would also benefit your kids both in how you interact with them but also how they conduct their own relationships because with kids it’s totally ‘monkey see monkey do’, right? Their lives will be so much happier because of you’ve got your relationship to a great place.

The Confident Commitment Calculator ™

In the last area of focus on your road to a Lasting Love that really excites you, in order to ESTABLISH whether or not your current partner is capable or even worthy of being ‘the one’, I’ve developed The Confident Commitment Calculator.

If you’ve really worked the first 3 steps to this program you’ll have become much more Empowered, Enlightened and Engaged, you’ll feel much more certain that you have done everything you can to try and change things.

Once you’ve changed how you show up you’ll see improvements in your partner regardless, but the process I take you through in this module will enable you to become clear about whether it’s enough of a change. And if it isn’t, I’ll help you recognize whether it’s because you didn’t commit as fully to the previous 3 stages as you’d have liked, or if it’s because you’re with the wrong man.

If you decide the results you’re getting are corresponding with your efforts, and you’re not ready to give up on him yet, you can either go through the course again (as you’ll have all the recordings), or you can join my group mentoring program, which no one has access to until they’ve done this course.

You’ll get clear about whether you’re with a man who wants to grow alongside you and help you co-create that deep love that makes you both feel fully alive or one who’s dragging you down, a dead weight that you need to cut loose. And because like attracts like, once you become available, attracting a soul mate who is also more self-aware and skilled is inevitable.

The processes in the Confident Commitment Calculator will also help you rate, rectify and release any blocks preventing you from leaving a relationship you’re now clear isn’t right for you. It will help you figure out the steps you need to take to minimize the impact on everyone involved and improve the chances of amicable and effective co-parenting going forward.

Live Q&A

In this session you'll be able to ask any questions you may have left over from Q&A's in previous sessions or get clarification on what you've learned over this course.

So these 4 modules together form my program called ‘The Love Him or Leave Him Launchpad’, a woman’s guide to gratefully loving or graciously leaving her man.™

If this course is something that speaks to you, I highly recommend you take advantage of the crazy low price and lock in your place today.

As this is the first launch of this course, I’m charging 30% of the normal price. Right now I want to give you loads of value in the hope of getting some good feedback.

Also, because I’m keeping the numbers low, you’ll get a LOT of attention. I 100% guarantee this offer won’t be repeated.

I'm ready and serious about improving my relationship now, I want to lock in my place:

Sign Me Up

I’m willing to risk not getting a place on this course, or for getting it at this low price, but want to be put on the reminder list for the ’Love Him or Leave Him Launchpad’ in future:

Remind Me Later

About Nikki
Internationally renowned author, speaker, psychotherapist, and coach, Nikki Green is one of the most highly sought after sexual/marital therapists and 'affairs' experts in Hong Kong – a city she playfully yet revealingly refers to as a ‘giant candy shop for men’. Well-qualified and highly experienced, Nikki is renowned for getting to the heart of the matter quickly and profoundly.

Having grown up in classrooms and at birthday parties that resembled the United Nations, she and her work are deeply cross-cultural.

She has trained in a variety of theoretical frameworks, including couples training with the 'Big 3', John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Les Greenberg, as well as cutting-edge neuroscience and sex therapy.While she continues to study widely, she finds her most illuminating lessons come from her clients and her own relationship.

She has crafted a powerful method inviting her husband of 8 years to co-create the vital, loving and supportive relationship they now share, and that she will soon be sharing with the world in her book 'Love Him or Leave Him?’ A woman’s guide to gratefully loving or gracefully leaving her man.

Although we use the term 'woman' this works for the 'feminine energy' partner in any relationship.

This course is being developed by demand, as an interim solution while the book is being finished.

You are invited to become part of the Academy of Lasting Love community.

"Working with Nikki helped me see relationships in a way that I would never ever have imagined. My husband had gone with me to another therapist a few years before but refused to get help with me this time. I was at my wits end and ready to leave him when I phoned Nikki. She told me she could help me turn my relationship around without him needing to come in.

The new perspective and tools she gave me have had the most amazing results and helped me turn my frustrating man into my soulmate - seriously, that same man I nearly left in disgust four years ago now dotes on me and makes me happier than I'd ever thought possible.

When I heard she was creating a course I jumped at the chance to say take it, you'll be so glad you did!"

Jenna, Hong Kong.

 

"Nikki is someone who really helped me change my whole perspective of life and relationships. She is also not only a skilled therapist but she is fun and it feels like I'm talking with a real friend. I am in a very good place in my life and I really thank her for that!!!"

Gabriela, Hong Kong.

 

"I have recently celebrated a very happy 19th Wedding Anniversary and I can categorically say that without Nikki's skillful and caring help I would not still be married today."

Ellen, Hong Kong

 

"Nikki did some Skype group coaching with me and some of my friends. We were all in either stagnant or hostile relationships and the new way she taught us to interact with our partners has made all our relationships so much better. She even helped one of us get out of a really toxic relationship and into a much happier one. We always joke when one of us has a relationship problem "What would Nikki tell us to do?" We can't thank her enough for her wisdom, her insight and her warmth."

Casey and all, Denver CO

OK Nikki, I’m serious about improving my relationship now, I want to lock in my place with you please:

Sign Me Up

I’m willing to risk not getting a place on this course, or for getting it at this low price, but want to be put on the reminder list for the ’Love Him or Leave Him Launchpad’ in future:

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