To see if you'd 'vibe' working with me, and get some information that’ll help you immediately view your relationship very differently, I’d like to invite you to my free 60 minute Lasting Love Masterclass, ‘Recognizing Your Relational Response’ – Better questions to ask when triggered. During this class you’ll also get an introduction to this new course.
Are you wondering where your man went - that wonderful man who swept you off your feet?
Is it painful to remember a time when you felt deeply in love? Does it hurt to recognize the romance, connection and affection that you once had is becoming a distant memory?
Do you feel unheard, unappreciated, exhausted or confused?
Are you feeling discouraged, fed-up or just plain irritated by everything he does?
Are your arguments becoming more commonplace or more hostile?
Seriously, have you ever contemplated the question “Do I stay or do I go?”
If so you are not alone. For a start you’re like the thousands of women I’ve worked with over the years.
Hello, I’m Nikki Green, I'm a psychotherapist, sexual/marital therapist and an affairs expert with nearly 25 years of experience working with couples, and I have some very good news for you:
It really is possible to turn that relationship that feels like a pile of burnt-out embers into the brightly burning phoenix of your soul-mate relationship. One in which you feel alive, appreciated, cherished and safe.
Sure, I can certainly show you how to do it, but the best news is; I can show you how to do it by yourself! Yes you read that correctly - you don’t need your partner to come into therapy, take a course or even read a book, (although after we’ve worked together he’ll probably be a lot more amenable to it).
I’m not going to ask you to do anything that isn’t backed by research, hasn’t worked for countless other women I’ve worked with, and that I haven’t benefitted from first-hand in creating my own soul-mate relationship.
Research shows that at least 80% of women have some level of dissatisfaction in their relationships. It’s hardly surprising as we’re in the unprecedented situation in which the Love-Relationship Blueprint passed onto us is totally obsolete; it’s failing us miserably.
Most of us saw it fail to serve our mothers and grandmothers who tried to use it to negotiate the imbalance of power both at home and at work. They endeavored to lead the way for generations of career women, yet also act as role models for how to have a fulfilling love relationship. It really was a case of the blind leading the blind. For the first time in history an economic power shift allowed women to pair-up for love rather than through necessity, BUT WE NEVER RECEIVED THE TRAINING TO MAKE THIS WORK.
My generation’s use of that deficient model (inevitably passed down to us by our mothers), has led to an alarming divorce rate of 50%+ and a predilection for infidelity that has understandably destroyed both our own faith, but also sadly the faith of our children. Have they in turn become, for the most part, a generation of commitment-phoebes, determined not to make the same mess out of their relationships that we did, by either not having one or having several at the same time? Is polyamory (which is becoming more popular among the younger generation) their hopeful yet misguided solution to the seemingly impossible task of making a relationship work?
I don’t want to put any pressure on you ladies but I’m not exaggerating when I say the future happiness of humanity depends on us completely redefining and redesigning the modern Love-Relationship Blueprint, so that we can be informed enough to be happy ourselves, and advise our children well.
The good news is we are in a great position to do just that. Today we are so fortunate to be able to call on decades worth of insightful research – not only the vital research into the secrets of happy, long-term couples, but also from other fields like human sexuality, success, motivation, satisfaction, learning and neuroscience; all of which I’ve drawn on in both my work with couples and the creation of this course.
I totally understand how you may believe the main problem in your relationship is caused by your partner’s unsupportive ambivalence, his inability to listen or understand you, or his unwillingness to change – there was a time when I completely believed that too - I’ve certainly witnessed enough of that behavior in my work and in my own past relationships. However, backed by volumes of research, seeing it in action countless times with clients, and having put it into action myself, the empowering truth is; AS A WOMAN YOU HAVE THE POWER TO SINGLE-HANDEDLY CHANGE THE DYNAMIC OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
Yes you heard me right; I said single-handedly! A relationship is a dynamic system, with both partners constantly reacting to the other; change the way one relates and you’ll totally change the system.
You may at this point either be skeptical, especially if you’ve tried working on your relationship and he either wouldn’t or couldn’t do the work or even see it was necessary. Or you may be thinking “well why the heck is it all up to me?”
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So I’ve realized that there are 4 areas that you need to focus on to get really clear about, and to concentrate your effort around in order to become a really skilled and inspiring partner.
For simplicity’s sake I’m just using a heterosexual model here, but the same solutions apply for all predominantly feminine energy partners.
First you’ve got to learn how to EMPOWER yourself before you can help the relationship; when I say empower I mean to give yourself power, to act from that strong, powerful part of you.
As you become more empowered, the next area you need to focus on in order to create your lasting love relationship is how to ENLIGHTEN yourself about how men really work.
To create a love that lasts you also need to learn how to ENGAGE him. How to talk to him so you can stay connected and problem solve productively.
So it’s only after you’ve learned to do these first three steps that you can then ESTABLISH whether or not you’re with the right man.
"Working with Nikki helped me see relationships in a way that I would never ever have imagined. My husband had gone with me to another therapist a few years before but refused to get help with me this time. I was at my wits end and ready to leave him when I phoned Nikki. She told me she could help me turn my relationship around without him needing to come in.
The new perspective and tools she gave me have had the most amazing results and helped me turn my frustrating man into my soulmate - seriously, that same man I nearly left in disgust four years ago now dotes on me and makes me happier than I'd ever thought possible.
When I heard she was creating a course I jumped at the chance to say take it, you'll be so glad you did!"
Jenna, Hong Kong.
"Nikki is someone who really helped me change my whole perspective of life and relationships. She is also not only a skilled therapist but she is fun and it feels like I'm talking with a real friend. I am in a very good place in my life and I really thank her for that!!!"
Gabriela, Hong Kong.
"I have recently celebrated a very happy 19th Wedding Anniversary and I can categorically say that without Nikki's skillful and caring help I would not still be married today."
Ellen, Hong Kong
"Nikki did some Skype group coaching with me and some of my friends. We were all in either stagnant or hostile relationships and the new way she taught us to interact with our partners has made all our relationships so much better. She even helped one of us get out of a really toxic relationship and into a much happier one. We always joke when one of us has a relationship problem "What would Nikki tell us to do?" We can't thank her enough for her wisdom, her insight and her warmth."
Casey and all, Denver CO
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