The Modern Marriage Method™ combines 7 Private Coaching Sessions with The Laws of Lasting Love™ foundation course - a proven, structured framework that keeps you motivated, accountable and on-track for success, week after week.

Each session builds on the last, so insight becomes action and action grows connection. 

While it is ideal if couples do this work together, some clients have to start this process alone.

When one person changes how they show up, the whole dynamic shifts.

You’ll choose the path that's right for you:

Seven sessions. 7–14 weeks. A clear process for real relationship change.

We purposefully follow this time frame because it creates the urgency and momentum that open-ended relationship work often lacks. Think of us as your 'accountability allies' - helping you stay focused, engaged, and moving forward when real life gets in the way.

Each module includes a lesson, workbook, and private coaching session, and must be completed within 7–14 days of the previous session. This means the full process takes a minimum of 7 weeks and a maximum of 14 weeks to complete*.

That structure isn’t there to be harsh. It’s there because lasting change requires real commitment, steady momentum, and a clear process for rebuilding the connection that brought you together in the first place.

*Certain conditions apply, check Terms. 

The Workbooks gives you the roadmap.
The Recorded Lessons bring it alive.
The Private Coaching gives you tailor-made clarity, and the accountability to follow it.
Together, they create unstoppable momentum for real and lasting change.

It's vitally important to complete the Lesson and Weekly Workbook before each of our private sessions, as your answers and any questions you have are what our hour together will focus on.

It’ll take about 2-3 hours to complete the Workbook and the Lessons are approximately 20-40 minutes. So, you’re looking at 3.5 hours either weekly or biweekly. People spend more time than that at the gym or on hobbies.

We specialize in high-stress, high-stakes relationships - affairs, emotional distance, big fights, expat strain, and near-divorce situations. This can work, even if your spouse has moved out. We've also helped couples who have tried and failed at marital therapy in the past. This isn’t theory. It’s true transformation for the marriages that feel almost beyond repair. 

Relationships are shaped by more than what happens between two people. Culture, family expectations, relocation, career pressure, and different models of love can all become part of the pattern.

With roots in England, Hong Kong, and the U.S., and lives shaped by international experience, Cleo and Nikki bring a broad, cross-cultural perspective to our work with couples and individuals - whether they are local to the Aspen area, based elsewhere in the U.S., or living internationally.

At a Glance: 

This week is about stopping the conversations that keep draining goodwill and learning what to do instead. You’ll begin creating the conditions for reconnection: more calm, a clearer vision, and a different way of seeing your partner while the relationship is still tender.

Deeper Dive:

While talking to each other about your problems right now feels so necessary, at least for one of you, it’s actually much more harmful than helpful. Which is one of the reasons why couple’s therapy has a 75% failure rate long-term.

In this first week we’ll give you some tools to stop this destructive behavior, so you can create more fertile ground on which to begin to rebuild connection and goodwill, the foundation of a true Soulmate relationship.

Our realistic, down-to-earth approach fully understands that you and/or your partner may not be each other’s greatest fans right now, so we’ll help you to embrace a very different perspective of them, which will make ‘loving them back’ much easier to want to do.

And finally, because 'if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time’, we help you to create a very clear vision of exactly what you want your relationship to look like. We’ll also give the powerful technique we use to help you spiritually supercharge the manifesting of this exciting and fulfilling goal.

At a Glance:

You’ll uncover the outdated models of love most of us inherited and begin replacing them with a more conscious, effective way to relate. Love stops being something you wait to receive, and becomes something you learn how to practice with intention. This is where the true magic starts.

Deeper Dive:

At least 80% of couples experience difficulties in their relationship, and when asked if they’d like a relationship like their parents had, almost 100% of them say “no thanks!”

Which is why in this second week we help you to clearly see the destructive, outdated models you have been subconsciously conditioned to use, and replace them with a much more successful ‘conscious model for modern relationships’. One that would make your kids say “heck yeah” if they were ever to be asked that same question.

Most of us think love is a noun, something our partners are failing to give us enough of, but in reality, it’s a verb. Want more love, give more love. It sounds so simple right? But we get that many of you have little desire to do that right now - that doesn’t matter. You don’t need desire; you need re-programming for love! All you've got to do is consistently and intentionally follow the steps we give you and we promise you, sooner or later you will begin to feel more love - and your partner will begin to feel more loved and give more love in return, it's an upward spiral.

At a Glance: 

This week helps you understand your own reactions and the power you have to shift the whole dynamic. You’ll begin learning how to respond from your wiser self instead of being pulled along by old triggers, fear, or frustration.

Deeper Dive:

So, after the Honeymoon phase wears off what really gets in the way of love? In a nutshell we do! In this third week we’ll help you to see exactly how you’re doing that and what to do about it.

So often, when our relationship is suffering, we feel like an anchorless ship, lost in a stormy sea. We know things are not going right, but it’s hard to get good perspective, let alone a game-plan for what we can do to change things.

You will see just how much power you truly have - how you can single-handedly turn this ship around by identifying your innate responses, learning how to control your reactions, and choosing to act from your authentic self instead. While this can sound daunting, our step-by-step approach makes this work clear and easy to follow.

Also, have you ever wondered how you can get your partner or kids to change? We’ll give you great insight about change and also the skinny on how to positively effect it.

At a Glance:

You’ll explore what actually makes your partner feel loved. This module helps you become more skillful at giving, receiving, and encouraging the kind of love that rebuilds closeness.

Deeper Dive:

This week we teach you how to take loving to a whole new level. For most of us, once the Honeymoon chemicals have worn off, the odds of making our partners feel truly and consistently loved are about as high as winning the lottery twice in a row. Not surprising really, as most of us never learned how.

You’ve really got to know someone to love them, and while many of us feel we know this person we’ve lived with for so long, your results of our insightful assessment questionnaire about that may prove surprising to many of you.

Don’t worry though, we’re going to help you become virtuosos at the art of both skillfully giving, receiving, and encouraging even more Soulmate-style love.

At a Glance:

This week is about the differences that once attracted you, but may now feel frustrating or threatening. You’ll begin learning how to rebuild respect, protect intimacy, and create boundaries without losing connection.

Deeper Dive:

As the saying goes - opposites attract. While we do gravitate towards people we have something in common with, generally, we fall in love with people who can 'complete us', who have strengths we lack and who subconsciously challenge us to grow the un-grown parts of ourselves.

In this fifth week we see how quickly the valuing of those differences disappears, and how ironically, at tremendous cost to both connection and goodwill, we go about trying to change our partners to be more like us.

And when we can’t, we’ll see how one or both of us usually looks elsewhere for less challenging and seemingly more rewarding pursuits.

Not only will we give you the tools to reconnect with your partner, instead of being caught up in a whirlwind of excessive entitlement or self-silencing submission, we’ll help you to start lovingly putting down the boundaries that are required to comfortably maintain intimacy on a 24-7 basis, which is one of the requisites of Soulmate love.

At a Glance:

You’ll look honestly at the cracks that can appear in intimacy over time, and how unmet emotional needs can make a relationship vulnerable. This module focuses on rebuilding trust, rekindling desire, and protecting the relationship from future disconnection.

Deeper Dive:

Once familiarity sets in, career and parenting demands increase, and our ability to successfully repair the inevitable fissures that happen between us decreases - cracks in intimacy start to appear and only deepen with time.

This week we’ll see how one or both of us usually looks elsewhere for more appreciative, less challenging, and more stimulating company. Regardless of whether it’s romantic, erotic or purely friendship-based, we’re usually sharing more intimacy (in-to-me-see) with others than we are with our partners at this point.

The external fulfillment of these emotional needs leaves us less and less inclined to reach for them from our partner, and leaves the relationship more and more susceptible to emotional or physical affairs.

In this module we’ll explore exactly what infidelity is, how to heal from it if need be, and how to affair-proof your relationship for the future, by showing you the best ways to rekindle that fire for each other, and how to keep it burning so you can enjoy a fulfilling, erotically-intimate connection for decades to come. 

At a Glance:

The final week gives you the practical tools to keep the momentum going. You’ll learn how to make requests, repair well, apologize more effectively, and use appreciation as a daily practice for lasting love.

Deeper Dive:

In our last week together, we will be giving you all the tools and resources you’ll need to continue the positive momentum you’ve created over the past 6 sessions and rock your lasting love relationship!

You’ll learn more about healthy, loving, boundaries, and the crucial role vulnerability plays in consistently eliciting a more empathetic and caring response from your partner.

We’ll give you a highly effective and easy to remember formula for making requests for help or change, in productive and extraordinarily motivating ways.

We’ll also teach you the potent art of apologizing when you’ve done something wrong, or even just inadvertently upset your partner, in a way that’s less of a challenge to your ego and more likely to result in deeper healing and more closeness.

Lastly, we’ll explore how vital the act of appreciation is in making a relationship truly flourish and we’ll help you build those crucial skills.

These are all key pieces to the puzzle, without them, a Soulmate connection is impossible.